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Whether you’re just starting to date someone new or you’ve been a couple for a long time, all us gals want our man to be attracted and attentive to us. Don’t you agree? In either case, no doubt, you want to make him want you (again), right?
Sure you do. 🙂
But, as a relationship starts growing and you start getting more comfy with each other, that crazy, yummy passion you have for each other seems to start slowing down. In some cases, it may even seem he’s not into you anymore and you just want to figure out how to make your man love you more.
Unless he’s got his foot in mid-air ready to give you the boot, there are still ways to make him crazy about you once again. You want him to desire you. Well, to do this, you have to be a desirable partner.
So, how do you do that?
Good news for you, men are simple creatures. And, while each man will have his own set of complex qualities, the one thing that’s common in all men is the traits and qualities they find attractive in us girls.
And, no it’s not ALL about sex. There are actual qualities in women they value that are not physical. So, let’s get down to it — how can you make him want you again?
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Here are some tips to try:
1. Get Confident
If anything is going to attract a guy, it’s a confident gal. And, yeah, you’ve probably heard this many times, but are you confident?
To men, confidence is sexy. It shows you’re secure in your world and don’t need him to make you happy and secure. Sure, he most likely does make you feel happy and secure, but when you’re confident in yourself, you can be those without him.
If you can get your act together and go after what you want in life with confidence, you’re already halfway there to having him go nutso over you. 😉
2. Get Spontaneous
Even if you thrive on routine and organization, being spontaneous can add that little spark about you and will definitely be attractive to your guy. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to go bungee jumping or break out the handcuffs every night. It just means being able to seek a little challenge and fun in your life — something that perhaps gets you out of the status quo.
When a guy meets a spontaneous gal, he never knows exactly what she’s going to do next, and he’s eager to find out. Also, when the two of you are not together, he knows you’re out there accepting challenges and enjoying what life has to throw at you next, including attracting other men because of this quality of yours.
When you’re embracing spontaneity, there’s no room for boredom and this keeps your man on his toes, crazy with anticipation.
3. Give Him Space
Let your man have his space girl. But, don’t forget to enjoy some of your own. A good way of making your man realize his feelings for you is to get him to miss you. Think about it, chances are quite good that when you first met your man, you weren’t living together and you also probably didn’t spend every waking minute with him either.
So, during this time when you’re apart what did you two do? Most likely sit there and reminisce about what you did the last time you were together and eagerly wait for the next time you can be together.
When you spend every minute of the day with your man, you don’t give him any time to miss you and this can kill that passion and spark after a while. So, make him miss you and make him realize he’s not the only thing in your life that can make you happy. Call your friends and make some plans at least once a week.
4. Tease Him Just a Little
You have a rockin body, show it off to him. Put on that cleavage showing shirt or show some shoulder. Let him see the outline of your sexy panties, or better yet, don’t wear any and make sure he knows that.
5. Don’t Throw Yourself at Him
This doesn’t mean ignore the heck out of him or play very hard to get. What it means is don’t fall all over him just because your nuts about him. Make it a little challenging for him to be with you (and yes, I also mean physically). He should know that you CHOOSE to be with him, but don’t need to be. You’re a HOT gal and anybody would be lucky to have you.
And, yes, this also works when you’re married or in a long-term relationship. At least it did for me and from what I’ve seen, it has for many other girls too. 🙂 I think it all goes back to just being confident in yourself. Love yourself girl — you got this.
6. Don’t Be Jealous
Don’t be the jealous type. So what if he looks at other girls. You have him, not them. Men are programmed to look at other girls, I swear. If you think there’s reason to be jealous, confront him and if you’re positive there’s reason for you to be jealous, ask yourself if you should even continue on with this relationship.
But, being jealous because you’re insecure is no good for a relationship and will eat away at it real quick. It’s not very attractive either.
7. Kiss All Time
There’s nothing more passionate in a relationship than kissing. You’re so intimately close. I know I feel those little shock like sensations deep down in my belly every time I kiss my man. You know those feelings I’m talking about right?
There’s just something about kissing. I think it’s better than sex. lol
Just be sure you’re mouth is ready before you attempt a kiss. Make sure your teeth are brushed and you have clean breath (like don’t kiss him after eating some with garlic or onion). Really give him your all when you’re kissing him — don’t half-ass it. Wrap your arms around his neck and stroke his hair or back of his neck while you’re kissing. This really intensifies the kiss.
8. Tell Him What You Want
Be upfront with what you want. This also goes along with “being confident”. Men aren’t really that great at reading minds or taking hints. My man totally sucks at it. 🙂 So, if you want something, just tell him. You may be a little shy or scared at first, but you’ll get the hang of it and he’ll love it, I promise. He won’t have to sit there and guess anymore.
9. Be Yourself
Everyone’s been told one time or another to just “be yourself.” I know I have and I try all the time. I do catch myself, however, from time to time trying to be the person I think my boyfriend wants me to be. That’ usually when we’re winding down from an argument and I just want to get over it and on with it.
Sometimes when we’re trying to please or impress another person, we tend to step into the role of what we think that person is looking for in another person. And, this in my opinion, is okay once in a while. But, if you’re trying to totally transform yourself just to make your man happy, you might want to step back a little and ask yourself why? What’s wrong with you? Why do you think he won’t love you just the way you are?
When you can love yourself and BE yourself, that shows confidence and as we already discussed above, confidence is sexy. So, seriously girl, just be yourself and stop trying to turn into someone you’re not.
I mean, it’s definitely okay to always be working on yourself and improve yourself — just don’t go overboard and totally change who you are and what makes you, YOU. Besides, the good men will appreciate you just the way you are.
Take a little by yourself to get to know YOU again. Maybe make a list of the things you value in life and what about you that you like the most. What do you enjoy doing and what brings you pleasure in life? When you take the time to evaluate yourself, you can start to enjoy life and really shine just being you.
10. DON’T Be Clingy
Just don’t! Seriously, it’s not helping your relationship if you are. I know when you feel insecure or that your man is drifting away from you a little bit, your first instinct is likely to “try and make him want you again”. And by all means, you can totally do this — check out this post. But, when you’re “trying to make him want you again” by complaining, crying, following him all over the place, not giving him any space, etc., you’re not doing yourself any favors. You’re actually pushing him further away.
So, if you find you’re starting to become a pest and you’re two minutes away from turning into a piece of velcro, stop. Ever heard the saying, “absence makes the heart grow fonder?” Yeah, that’s what we’re talking about here. Give your guy some space and take some of your own.
11. Initiate Sex Once In A While
Usually, in many relationships, the man is the one who initiates sex. I mean that makes sense, they’re always horny. 🙂 They love taking charge and watching you surrender to their advances. They especially love it when you really get into it.
But, having to be the one to ALWAYS make the first move can get old. And, these days, men seem to like the woman who goes after what they want. Like women, men also want to feel wanted. By initiating sex yourself once in a while, it shows your man you’re still into him and just want to get your hands all over him.
12. Stop Texing Him All the Time
When you’re not with the one you love and you start missing them, it’s only natural to want to send them a text or call them to check up. Doing this all day long is a turnoff, in my opinion, and a bit “clingy.” You’re not giving your guy a chance to miss you when you’re constantly texting them every hour.
If you want them to miss you back or wonder what you’re up to, then don’t reach out and let him be the one to reach out to you.
This also works well when you live with the guy. I know, I’ve done this plenty of times and I’m telling ya — it works! For instance, I like to walk the trails in the morning after I drop my son off to school. Whenever we argue, I just leave and go for my walk. It usually takes me a good hour and a half because on some days I can walk up to 6 miles.
But, instead of telling him where I’m going, I just go (or don’t come right home after dropping my son off — I’ll go straight to the trails instead). I:
- DON’T bring my cell phone with me on the trails
- Leave it in the car
By the time I’m done walking, I’ve got one missed phone call and one missed text from him.
Of course, when I get home, he’ll ask where I’ve been and I’ll tell him. The point here is for that brief moment (the hour and a half), he was wondering what I was up to. And, when he couldn’t get a hold of me right away, that drove him nuts too — especially since we were in the middle of an argument.
Now, I’m not saying play games with your man. That’s just drama and not really healthy for your relationship. All I’m saying is, every once in a while, just go out and do something you enjoy. Don’t ask his permission and while totally up to you, don’t even tell him where you’re going until you get back. Don’t answer your phone if he calls or texts. Just let him know when you get home, you didn’t have your phone on you or the ringer was off, etc.
All I’m saying is don’t ALWAYS be available to him. Make him wonder a little. I’m sure some people are not going to agree with this, but that’s fine and totally cool. I’m just saying it always works for me and makes him realize how much he cares about me.
The only time I don’t suggest doing this is if your man is insecure, overly jealous or if you’ve been unfaithful to him recently. Then, this tactic will probably backfire and make him even more insecure or think you’re up to no good.
But, if you’re in a healthy relationship, by all means, take a timeout with yourself away from him and let him wonder where you are.
Okay, so these are just some of my tips to help you make him want you whether you’re just starting out in the relationship or you’ve been with him for years and things are getting stale. If you have any tricks up your sleeve that has been successful, please do share them below.
Also, I wanted to point you in the direction of a program that can help spice up your relationship. It’s called: How to Respark the Romance. It gives you tips and proven tricks you can apply to bring back the love and passion back into your relationship. If you want to make him want you, then you should definitely check this program out.
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