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Keeping a happy state of mind can be difficult for some people. And, we all know life can throw us obstacles to make being happy even more of a challenge. Unfortunately, happiness, like the other emotions, isn’t a fixed, permanent emotion — you gotta work at.
But, the good news, is if you’re feeling down in the dumps, depressed, just plain hate life, you can snap out of it and learn how to be happy with life…and rather quickly. In my other posts, you’ll find tips and techniques, products, etc. that will help you find true happiness. But, with this post, I’m just sticking to the basics here and sometimes all it takes is a little tricking of your mind. 😉 So, how do you turn on happiness?
Fake Being Happy Until you’re Genuinely Happy
Okay, chances are you’ve heard this saying before, “fake it until you make it.” It’s a pretty common saying. There’s also a lot of power behind it too. Seriously, I’ve tried it and it works. Really.
So, how does faking it until you make it work when it comes to happiness and self-love?
Well, many of us think the true key to happiness is in the things we can get. You know, those things you want so bad, you crave for, you just need to possess. And these can be either tangible or intangible like “inner peace.” You see, we all live in a world where instant gratification makes us happy. That’s not necessarily a bad thing though, especially when you’re going to try out the whole “fake it” mindset.
This “fake it until you make it” is pretty much you pretending or acting like you already have what you want — in this case, happiness — until you actually have it or feel it for real. When you’re pretending and acting like you’re already happy, you’re essentially tricking your mind (and other people) that you’re happy. So, why not try it on for size? It can’t hurt right?
I’ll tell you a little experiment I did when I was really down on myself (this is a true story). I lacked:
- Self- esteem
I was a chocolate mess! I watched others around me having fun, laughing, just looking like they really knew how to be happy with life. I was envious, jealous even. Nobody would pay attention to me. Why would they? I was miserable and unhappy.
But, one day as I was sitting there watching these people (it was my boyfriend’s sister-in-law and her friends), I thought to myself, she would be really cool to be friends with. But, in order to be friends with her, I have to change myself. At the time, I had no idea how I was going to make myself happy or acquire self-confidence enough to “be cool enough” to hang with these people. So, I decided to fake it.
At that very moment, I put a smile on my face, stood up tall and began to interact and engage with her and her friends. From then on, each time I came over, I acted as if we were best friends. I’d say within a couple weeks if that, we became friends for real and I felt happier and was more self-confident. This wasn’t because she and I became friends. I truly believe this is because I faked it until I made it.
Okay, enough rambling….happiness is a state of being. It’s not a bunch of possessions. Seriously, all you have to do to be happy is to make the choice. That’s the first step and then just fake it until you begin feeling more content in life.
Take Small Basic Steps to Being Happier
Being happy doesn’t have to start with an hour-long meditation, finding self-identity by asking yourself a bunch of deep questions or giving yourself a total makeover. Start off slowly by providing yourself and your body with your basic necessities which are food, water and sleep. By not depriving yourself of sleep or letting yourself get hungry or thirsty, you’re taking care of two essentials to impact your happiness.
Focus on your Self-Skills You’re Already Happy With
Within you, you have a certain set of skills that are linked closely with happiness. It may take some digging, but it’s worth it. Research shows that positive self-view is linked closely with happiness. So, what you need to do to engage “happy” is to learn how to be the best possible you that you can. Sound hard? Start off by making a list of your:
- Positive qualities
Just by identifying and using these three attributes, you will naturally begin increasing your happiness. Then you can work on the rest.
Put on a Fake Smile
Don’t you hate it when people tell you to smile or cheer up? When you’re down in the dumps, you don’t want to hear this. But, turning that frown upside down may actually have its benefits. Science even shows that putting a smile on your face helps to enhance your immune system, boost your mood and maybe even prolong your life.
Another thing about putting on a fake smile — you can’t feel negative when you’re smiling. Seriously, try it. When you smile, you trick your brain into thinking that you’re happy through good neurotransmitters and your brain sends signals throughout your body that actually causes feelings of happiness.
So, next time you’re stuck in a rut or feeling blue, put on a fake smile and leave it there for a bit.
Faking a smile interrupts those negative feelings and thoughts. You might have the same issues going on, but you’ve just turned on a positive mindset by smiling (even if its fake). This can help you face your issues calmly and in a better state of mind. You may suddenly begin finding solutions to your issues.
Boost your Mood with Gratitude
There’s nothing like showing gratitude to boost your mood and make you happy. In fact, research conducted even shows that when you express gratitude it lifts your mood and makes you happier. So, make a list of 10 things you’re grateful for. This can be anything from your:
- Something else
When you’re grateful you’re recognizing you can be happy about things that lie outside yourself. This allows you to have a greater appreciation for people, events, a higher power, etc. and this means there’s something larger than you to be happy about. When you’re grateful, you delight in good experiences and memories and this helps you to build strong relationships with others and remember you were once happy with an experience.
Condition your Mind to Be Happy – Choose to Be Happy
If at all, just choose to be happy. Do all you can do to learn how to be happy. Change your mindset to invite bliss into your life. Put a smile on your face, even when you don’t feel like it and have the growth mindset of constant love, abundance and happiness. Choose behaviors and attitudes that promote happiness. Act happy. Hang with happy people.
Continually remind yourself you’re a truly amazing person and offer yourself the gift of self-acceptance as its an essential component of living a happier life.
Do you believe in the law of attraction? I do and I’ve used it many times to get ahead in life. Now you can use it to bring happiness into your life. To help you either learn how to use the law of attraction to not just bring happiness into your life, but wealth, love, good health and more, you should check out Joe Vitale’s “The Awakening Course“. 🙂 pssssst.. I love Joe Vitale too…he really knows his stuff when it comes to the law of attraction.